DuoLivo Magazine
How much of your past belongs in the first conversation?
Read article: How much of your past belongs in the first conversation?Anyone getting to know someone after 50 brings a life with them. A long marriage, perhaps a divorce, perhaps a loss. Children, grandchildren, a diagnosis, a career that shaped them. None of that can be set aside for the first meeting, nor should it be. Still, the question that occupies many and that hardly anyone voices remains: how much of it do you share the first time? Too little seems guarded. Too much overwhelms. In this article, we look at what research says about the right balance, and go through the three trickiest areas: previous relationships, grief, and health. What…
How much closeness does a person need?
Read article: How much closeness does a person need?– Part 2 of our series with the ZSS has been published – Some people wish to have someone around them daily. For others, a long phone call once a week is enough. Both are normal, and neither says much about how fulfilling a life is. This is precisely where the second part of our series for the Association of Zurich Senior Women and Men, which has now been published, comes in. Closeness Knows No Right Amount Someone who needs time for themselves is not automatically lacking something. And someone who desires company is not needy. The decisive factor is…
The Second Date: What’s Different Now
Read article: The Second Date: What’s Different NowThe first meeting went well. You said goodbye, and both agreed that it should be repeated. Then comes the date, and with it a feeling that surprises many: the second date feels harder than the first. There’s a reason for this, and it’s not a bad sign. The first meeting was framed by curiosity. The second, for the first time, introduces something that wasn’t there before: an expectation. In this article, we show what actually changes between the first and second meetings, which topics are now appropriate and which can still wait, and how to tell if it will continue.…
Spotting romance scams: seven patterns that keep repeating
Read article: Spotting romance scams: seven patterns that keep repeatingIt almost always starts out friendly. A message from someone who seems interested in you, listens well, and gets in touch when they said they would. That is exactly what makes it difficult: at the beginning, this type of fraud does not look like fraud, but like what you would hope for. Romance scams—known in German as “Liebesbetrug”—do not work through technology. They work through time and trust. In this article, we show what Swiss crime statistics say about these cases, which seven patterns can help you spot a scam before any money is sent, and what to do if…
Autumn dates in Switzerland: 5 ideas for crisp, golden days
Read article: Autumn dates in Switzerland: 5 ideas for crisp, golden daysIt rained overnight, and in the morning the air is so clear you can see mountains that were lost in summer haze for months. The light is low, the vines have turned, and it is just cool enough that walking feels better than sitting. Autumn has a reputation as a melancholy season. For a first meeting, it is one of the best times of the year. Not because a walk through fallen leaves would be a bad idea. But because autumn forces you to think a little ahead—and that small amount of planning is exactly what comes across to the…
If There Is No Reply
Read article: If There Is No ReplyThings were going well. Three or four messages back and forth, perhaps a phone call, maybe even a meeting. And then: nothing. No rejection, no explanation, no argument. Just silence. There has been a word for this for several years: ghosting. It describes the abrupt, one-sided termination of contact without explanation. It is annoying, rude, and widespread—but it is almost never what many take it for: a judgment of one’s own character. In this article, we show what research knows about ghosting, why silence hurts more than it should, and how to handle it without letting one evening define your…